How Technology Uses Our Psychology Against Us

We’ve all been there. You’re sitting at your desk working when a notification pops up on your phone. Maybe Sally liked your Facebook post. Maybe James followed you on Instagram. Maybe it’s an email, a celebrity tweet, or a news alert. You open it mindlessly and before you know it, 20 minutes have disappeared. It will likely happen while you’re reading this article. You…

What They Don’t Tell You About Quitting

We have all had some version of these motivational quotes surface in our minds like “our greatest weakness lies in giving up” or “you didn’t come this far only to come this far” or “there is no failure except in no longer trying.” Many of us are taught, from a young age, quitting equals failure. To quit is to demonstrate a lack of work…

Why Expressive Writing Will Change Your Life

The process of writing down your thoughts and feelings can be both therapeutic and enlightening. Maybe you’ve experienced this personally because journaling is a frequent practice. Maybe you’ve never journaled because the idea feels too vulnerable. What is expressive writing? Expressive writing is a practice that involves writing at least 15 minutes for 3 to 4 consecutive days. Dr. James Pennebaker, a social psychologist and…

7 Ways to Cope During The Pandemic

Have you been feeling anxious? Frustrated? Scared? Depressed? Angry? If so, I have some good news. You are not alone! Not in the slightest. The pandemic has upended millions of lives. It’s easy to believe that anger, anxiety, or depression mean something is wrong with us. Or that we’re not coping as well as we should be. But, as Viktor Frankl has said, “an…

Don’t Be a Writer Unless You Have to

I’m only in my first year of college when my English professor asks to see me after class. The next hour is spent staring at the clock with a pounding heart and sweaty palms. Does she think I plagiarized on the paper? How can I prove that I didn’t? Did another student steal my work? How is that even possible? My mind races back…

How to Stop Being Afraid of Disappointing Others

Most of us care, to varying degrees, about what other people think of us. We generally don’t want to disappoint people. This can be psychologically healthy; we’re social creatures who desire belonging, harmony, and acceptance. It’s normal to care. The Dangers of FODO Sometimes the desire to achieve belonging and harmony can result in what I refer to as FODO, or the fear of…

The Power of Putting Language to Our Experience

It’s not a novel concept that labels and diagnoses are often attached to a stigma. Aside from the medical danger of misdiagnosing patients, there’s a historically significant social stigma surrounding mental illness that is still deeply rooted in Western culture today. Indeed, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, Fifth Edition (DSM-V), the clinician’s handbook of diagnostic criteria for mental health disorders, has faced criticism for…

The Courage to be Vulnerable

Like many others, I’m a big fan of Brené Brown. I have been devouring her books and talks for years while nodding my head in agreement and solidarity. Vulnerability, yes! Courage, yes! Shame resistance, yes! Recently, when I was finishing her book Daring Greatly, I tried to recall an experience when I allowed myself to be vulnerable in the pursuit of courage, risked disappointing people,…